Lovers & Soulmates: Flesh of my Flesh

The tale of Adam and Eve is one of my favourite stories. I was a student at Hebrew University the first time I sat down to read the book of Genesis. I’ve read it dozens of times since and each time I read it, I learn something new. 

This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.

These were the words that first sprung to my mind when I first encountered the Lovers card in a tarot reading. The soulmate relationship. Woah. Did I just use that word? Yea – I guess I did. Do you believe in that kind of stuff – that there’s someone out there who’s meant for you and you alone?

torah-89074_1280Or do you believe that other thing – that relationships are about marriage, making babies, buying a house and doing what is expected of you. We can have long lasting relationships based on duty, lust, social standing, money etc. But are those relationships worth it?

We’ve all heard stories of people who are married to one person and in love with someone else. Perhaps you’ve even experienced it yourself. When we divide our heart and head between two people – we inevitably feel cut up inside. And don’t get me started on how it can destroy whole families for generations. 

A lot of people get into relationships without realising what a major life decision it actually is. We learn math and science at school, but we never learn how to be in a relationship, become a parent or raise kids. A vast majority of people also come from dysfunctional families so… many of us have no idea how to to get it right. 

But some of us don’t want to settle for anything else than a soulmate. Someone for whom we feel that passion. That deep desire. That rare intimacy. Those warm pangs of genuine love. That feeling of understanding that comes from being with someone who is aligned with your values. Someone with whom you can freely share your heart. You can reveal all of you – no holds barred. Love without fear. You surrender so you can experience the most primal of all experiences. 

 This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.

It’s an experience that I wish everyone would have the chance to experience at least once in their lifetime. It is worth the risk of heartbreak. But the person who you’ll have this experience with is not going to hurt you. Besides, I know from experience that you can only let go like that if there is mutual trust, honesty and respect. If either one of those elements is missing, you’ll find yourself holding back. Feeling lonely. Misunderstood. Uncared for. Ashamed.

That doesn’t sound like a soulmate to me.

Having said that, I’m not sure if I believe in ‘the one’. But I do believe in love without fear. I believe in that deep connection and bond that you can share with someone who is a kindred. It’s one of life’s most beautiful experiences.

 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.


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